by Midnight Freemasons Contributor
WB Scott S. Dueball
If you are responsible for your lodge in any
capacity, you have likely received requests to take “donations” from the
families of deceased Brethren. Often these requests come years after the
passing of the Brother when the wife or children have begun to clean out
nightstands and crawlspaces. A request to take back some of these items is
likely tied to the giver’s naivetè regarding their value. They are afraid to
discard something that may be valuable. Given this uncertainty regarding value,
the donation becomes akin to those family heirloom china, crystal, or
furniture.
I have received or been promised a few special
items which I will cherish dearly. As these things hold sentimental value to me
personally and lack any functional value to the rest of the world, I cannot
expect them to be appreciated by my children. In the same way, many of the
items I have cleaned out of our lodge storage lack sentimental or functional
value. In truth, many (not all) of these donations are a transference of the
burden from the family to the passed Brother’s Lodge. I don’t mean to insinuate
a nefarious act on the part of the donor. It’s mere ignorance of the stuff they
have or unwillingness to be the one to pitch something that may be meaningful.
I understand the compassion that strikes us when
contacted by a widow. While helping our widows and orphans is laudable,
cluttering up storage with items for a future Brother to deal with is not. Our
lodges simply don't have the space or the need to house multiple copies of the
same printing of Mackey’s Encyclopedia, old fezzes, or 47 years of lapel pins.
Things that don’t serve a purpose
(historical significance, novelty, monetary) are valueless and it should be alright to let them go. But I too struggle with letting go of someone else’s effects.
It is probably best to offer the books to a library or research lodge. Do your best to put them in the position to provide use to future generations. As for the pins, certificates, fezzes, etc, you don’t need to hold on to them. Offering these things to anyone else is only going to add pressure to take them. And I will tell you that, sooner or later, we have to let the meaningless stuff go.
(historical significance, novelty, monetary) are valueless and it should be alright to let them go. But I too struggle with letting go of someone else’s effects.
It is probably best to offer the books to a library or research lodge. Do your best to put them in the position to provide use to future generations. As for the pins, certificates, fezzes, etc, you don’t need to hold on to them. Offering these things to anyone else is only going to add pressure to take them. And I will tell you that, sooner or later, we have to let the meaningless stuff go.
~SSD
WB Scott S. Dueball is the Worshipful Master of D.C. Cregier Lodge No. 81 in Wheeling, IL and holds a dual membership in Denver Lodge No. 5 in Denver, CO. He currently serves the Grand Lodge of Illinois as the State Education Officer. Scott is also a member of the Palatine York Rite bodies and the Valley of Chicago A.A.S.R.-N.M.J. He is passionate about the development of young masons, strategy and visioning for Lodges. He can be reached at SEO@ilmason.org