Be Curious....Not Judgemental

by Midnight Freemason Contributor

WB Darin A. Lahners

I am a fan of the Emmy award-winning Apple + TV show, Ted Lasso. The title character, Ted Lasso (Jason Sudekis), is a former Division II College Football coach hired to coach a Premier League Football team, AFC Richmond.  Ted moves along with his trusty side-kick Coach Beard from Witchita, Kansas to Richmond upon Thames, London.  Initially, he is hired by Rebecca Welton (Hannah Waddingham), who is the former owner's ex-wife.  She hires Ted thinking that it will help ruin the team in order to get revenge upon her ex-husband, Rupert Mannion (Anthony Head), as she believes it is the only thing he loved. However, she is slowly brought around by Ted's coaching and personality.

Ted is the personification of positivity and his personality is infectious with this trait.  You can't help but cheer for him. There is a scene in Season 1, Episode 8, in the Episode: "The Diamond Dogs" which is in my opinion one of the most moving scenes I have watched in a very long time.  The message it delivers is extremely powerful.  The scene is structured around Ted who is playing darts against the entitled, wealthy, arrogant ex-owner of AFC Richmond, Rupert, in the local pub (The Crown and Anchor) in Richmond Upon Thames.  Ted and Rebecca went to the Crown and Anchor expecting to meet with some of the co-owners of the Club of AFC Richmond, The Milk Sisters.  Instead, they find out that Rupert has bought them out and has become a co-owner of the club.  Rupert not only does this but announces that he is engaged. All of this he does to humiliate and torture his ex-wife, Rebecca.  

Rupert and Ted make a wager.  If Rupert wins, he can fill out the line-up card for the last two matches.  If Ted wins, Rupert can't come near the owner's box.  As the scene unfolds the men are engaged in conversation, and Rupert is beating Ted:

Rupert: 

Shall I be giving you the lineup card now, Ted?

I shall be putting Obisanya

back on defense where he belongs.

Jeremy (Fan of the club that frequents The Crown and Anchor):

That's exactly what I said, didn't I?

Rupert:

Now, now, it's not all Ted's fault.

My ex-wife's the one who brought

the hillbilly to our shores.

I know she's always been a bit randy,

but I never thought

she would f* over an entire team.

Ted Lasso:

Hey!

Better manners when I'm holding a dart.

Please.

Mae. What do I need to win?

Mae (Owner of the Crown and Anchor):

Two triple 20s and a bull's-eye.

Good luck.

Ted Lasso:

You know, Rupert, guys have

underestimated me my entire life.

And for years, I never understood why.

It used to really bother me.

But then one day,

I was driving my little boy to school

and I saw this quote by Walt Whitman

and it was painted on the wall there.

It said, "Be curious, not judgmental."

I like that.

(Ted throws his first dart and hits a Triple 20)

So I get back in my car

and I'm driving to work,

and all of a sudden it hits me.

All them fellas that used to belittle me,

not a single one of them were curious.

They thought they had everything

all figured out.

So they judged everything,

and they judged everyone.

And I realized

that they're underestimating me...

who I was had nothing to do with it.

'Cause if they were curious,

they would've asked questions.

You know?

Questions like,

"Have you played a lot of darts, Ted?"

(Ted throws his second dart and hits another Triple 20)

To which I would've answered, 

"Yes, sir.

Every Sunday afternoon

at a sports bar with my father,

from age ten till I was 16,

when he passed away."

Barbecue sauce.

(Ted throws his final dart, hitting the bullseye, winning the game and bet)

You can view the scene here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3S16b-x5mRA

What resonates for me in that scene is that I believe it perfectly encapsulates key ideas of Freemasonry.

The first idea that resonates is Ted's humility in the scene. It's not easy to have someone insult you, especially in Ted's case where it's being done by someone that is powerful and smug.  Ted's ability to subdue his passions is something that every Freemason learns in their first degree.  Ted calmly retells the tale about how he improved himself due to a Walt Whitman quote he read, much like we are taught to improve ourselves in Masonry.

The second idea that the scene conveys is the act of choosing to be curious over being judgmental.  As we are taught in the first degree to use the common gavel to divest our hearts and consciences of the vices and superfluidities of life, we are directing ourselves to use it to help us form our rough ashlar into a more perfect one.  This means that we must always work on ourselves.  Ted's humility and optimism come from him choosing to improve himself, much like we must choose to improve ourselves by using the common gavel.  In watching the show, you will see that Ted is someone who actively tries to be a better person because that's the choice he makes daily.  He chooses to be curious, he chooses to be empathetic, he chooses to forgive and he chooses to uplift those around him.      

The last idea that the scene conveys is twofold.   The first part of this last idea about being curious and not judgemental applies to those people around us that we interact with, but also how we should interact with the world around us.  If you read the blog, you have read article after article about Freemasonry.  All of the authors here have explored it, however, I don't know that any of us have ever distilled it down to be as simple as the Walt Whitman quote.  Freemasonry is about being Curious and not Judgemental.  The core idea behind our tenet of Brotherly Love expresses the idea of being curious and not judgemental about other people. Furthermore, the lessons of the Middle Chamber of our Fellowcraft degree, tell us to take this same approach with our learning via the Liberal Arts and Sciences.

Curiosity is the key to learning.  This applies to learning about people as well as about the world. Curious learners are engaged learners.  This means that they are going to remember and retain information better than someone that is not curious.  When it comes to people, if we are curious, not only are we able to really learn about them, but we are connecting with them.  Our interpersonal relationships will grow when we are curious about another person, we will be able to find common points of reference or interest between us.  

When we are curious, we open ourselves up to and become more observant about other experiences, ideas, and possibilities.  How many of us feel that we really know the other brothers in their lodge?  You might know about them, but have we taken the time to be curious enough to really get to know them?  We can apply this philosophy not only to your lodge members but to others as well.  How many of you spend time and energy on social media arguing with others that don't agree with your views?  Do you take the time to ask them why they believe what they believe?  If you take the time to be curious, you might find that you have more in common with them than you realize.

The more we are curious, and learn about something, the more we open ourselves up to different ideas and points of view.  The more we question, the more we will learn about another Masonic Tenet, Truth.   As we seek to gain light, we must choose to be curious.  In being curious and not judgemental, we must learn from others, not judge them.  We must take what we learn about others, and our world and use it to change our Masonic experience. We need to stop worrying so much about the past, but rather embrace the possibilities of the future.  So let's start practicing this in our lodges and our everyday lives. Let's start being curious, and see what happens.  What do we have to lose?

~DAL

WB Darin A. Lahners is our Co-Managing Editor. He is a host and producer of the "Meet, Act and Part" podcast. He is currently serving the Grand Lodge of Illinois Ancient Free and Accepted Masons as the Area Education Officer for the Eastern Masonic Area. He is a Past Master of St. Joseph Lodge No.970 in St. Joseph. He is also a plural member of Homer Lodge No. 199 (IL), where he is also a Past Master. He’s a member of the Scottish Rite Valley of Danville, a charter member of Illinois Royal Arch Chapter, Admiration Chapter No. 282, and a member of the Salt Fork Shrine Club under the Ansar Shrine. You can reach him by email at darin.lahners@gmail.com.    

Cemetery Gates

by Midnight Freemason Contributor

WB Darin A. Lahners

The afternoon after the morning session of Grand Lodge Sessions in Illinois last past, fellow Midnight Freemason Greg Knott and I found ourselves exploring Springfield. Our journey began at Oakridge Cemetery, which is best known for being the location of Lincoln’s tomb. After paying our respects to President Lincoln, we traveled through the cemetery, until we came upon the most curious gravestone. The grave on the front, had a solitary square and compass. Upon the back, it read:

WEBNER E. LOOMIS

B.Sc ATTY.

BORN NOV. 11, 1851

DIED MAY 3, 1921

BE THOU MADE FREE

AS WAS THIS MAN

BY THE STUDY OF

TRUTHFUL HISTORY

MATHEMATICS LAW

CHEMISTRY OF EARTH

AND SKY EVOLUTION

ASTRONOMY ETC

JOHN 8:32

On top of the grave, is what appears to be a very faded astrological or astronomical chart.

Needless to say, the grave was unique enough for me to want to find out more about this individual. Upon getting back to the hotel room, I found a biography of him published originally in a book entitled: “Past and Present of the City of Springfield and Sangamon County Illinois” by Joseph Wallace, M.A. of the Springfield Bar by The S.J. Clarke Publishing Co., Chicago, IL. 1904 and found on the following website. (https://sangamon.illinoisgenweb.org/1904/loomis.htm. In keeping with our policy of providing free information on the Internet, data and images may be used by non-commercial entities, as long as this message remains on all copied material. These electronic pages cannot be reproduced in any format for profit or for other presentation without express permission by the contributor(s).)I present it below in its entirety.

“Webner E. Loomis, a lawyer of Springfield, traces his ancestry back to Joseph Loomis, of Braintree, England, who sailed from London on the ship Susan Ellen and arrived at Boston, Massachusetts, July 17, 1638. He settled in Windsor, Connecticut, in 1639, and among his descendants are those who have been prominent in public affairs and successful in private business interest. Horace Loomis, the grandfather of our subject, lived in Herkimer county, New York, and married Julia Tuttle, a native of that county. He removed from there in 1838 with his wife and children, Thadeus L., William B. and Horace J. Loomis, who located at a point at the extreme end of the prairie about a mile and a half east of Chesterfield, Illinois, and which extended to the site of Chicago without the intervention of a single tree or anything else other than the tall prairie grasses in its season. Horace Loomis pursued farming and stock-raising until his death, December 20, 1850. His widow passed away in 1864 and both lie buried in the Loomis cemetery near Chesterfield. 

William B. Loomis, father of W. E. Loomis, was born in Herkimer county, New York, April 28, 1829. He married Mary A. Eldred, who died October 5, 1854. She was a daughter of William and Ruth (Brace) Eldred. Her father had come from Herkimer county, New York, in 1822, and located on a farm two miles and three-quarters west of Carrollton, this state. The Eldreds and Braces were of English lineage, descended from ancestors who came to America about 1640. The mother of Mrs. Ruth Eldred, was a member of the Bushnell family and a near relative of Horace Bushnell, the eminent theologian who was born at Litchfield, Connecticut, April 14, 1802, and died in 1876. It was in honor of this family that the city of Bushnell, Illinois, is named. Many of the Braces have been noted educators and public spirited citizens.

To the marriage of William B. Loomis and Mary A. Eldred there was born a daughter that died in infancy. The other children were Webner E., born November 11, 1851; and Leverett W., who was born February 8, 1853, and died April 8, 1896, at Carrollton, Illinois. He had there founded and built up the largest jewelry store and business of that city. He made and gave to Blackburn College at Carlinville, Illinois, a six inch achromatic clock movement and astronomical equatorial telescope in 1885, valued at several thousand dollars. In 1887 he made an absolutely universal focus lens instrument of nine lenses that was never before equaled and cannot be excelled. The seven and a half inch astronomical visual and photographic telescope that he made and which is now in possession of his brother, is in every respect superior to any other make of its size and class. He was equally renowned in connection with his labors in electricity and chemistry, astronomy and other branches of the learned and skilled sciences. A fair estimate of the evidence of his accomplishments would place him as the most skilled and learned person in the sciences of mechanics of his day. It was well said that his death was a loss to the whole world.

Webner E. Loomis, the subject of this sketch was born on his father's farm a mile and a half east of the village of Chesterfield, Illinois and near there he attended the country schools, while in the periods of vacation he worked in his father's grist and saw mill and also on the farm, being thus employed until 1865, when he went with his father's family to Minneapolis, Minnesota, but upon the death of his father in 1867 he returned to and became a member of the family of his uncle, Horace J. Loomis, who was living about a mile southeast of Chesterfield. There Webner E. Loomis attended school in the village in fall and winter, and worked on his uncle's farm throughout the remainder of the year until he became a student in Blackburn University, now college, in 1870. He was graduated from that institution in June, 1873, with the degree of Bachelor of Science; earning his way by working on the farm and teaching school. During the fall of that year he began the study of law in the office of the late United States Senator John M. Palmer, at Springfield. He was admitted and licensed by the supreme court of this state on the 8th of January, 1876, to practice as an attorney and counselor at law.

Mr. Loomis has since been a most indefatigable worker in searching after the truest and best knowledge connected with every side and phase of whatever question he undertakes. While on the farm he thoroughly studied that great department of labor, putting his scientific knowledge to the practical test. He learned much of the best pedigrees and valuable points of the horse and other domestic or farm animals. As a school teacher and citizen he early realized that the aristocracy controlled the system of education of our public schools, so that if its pupils ready anything it must be mostly fiction and satisfied only by the charms of poetry, music, art, display and athletic sports and that this would create a distaste for good reading or the hard study necessary to grow in knowledge. This in time would develop a people unfit for self-government and, therefore Mr. Loomis has with word and pen fought against such conditions in our schools. Senator Palmer said that Mr. Loomis was the most industrious law student that he had ever had and after his being admitted to the bar certified amongst other good qualifications, that Mr. Loomis was of the strictest honor and integrity.

Mr. Loomis has a genius for discovering defects in the law or procedure that come under his investigation. He showed through a habeas corpus application that the city of Springfield had been for some forty years imprisoning violators of its ordinances with legal right and a new ordinance had to be enacted to cure the defect. He proved that the form of notice as published to get service on defendants in chancery cases, as had been used about thirty-five years in this county, was void; and his corrected form of the same has now been in use for quite a number of years. Mr. Loomis also discovered that the ordinance for fixing and collecting water taxes or rates were illegal and they were amended to cure the defects. He put a stop to prosecutions without trial by jury under the vagabond act. On his suggestion the bar association of this county introduced bills in the recent Illinois Legislature for limiting to one year the right to contest wills and for establishing a jury commission that would apply to this county. 

The former bill became a law. Mr. Loomis, as a trial lawyer, has accomplished some remarkable successes, among which may be mentioned the clearing of the defendant that was immediately found after and within a few feet of the place in possession of a thirty dollar overcoat that had been stolen; and his successful defense of the young girl indicted for the larceny of ninety-two dollars after some six person testified at her trial that she had confessed to them that she had taken the money, and the defendant did not deny it. Another notable case was that in the United States court where Mr. Loomis' masterly argument caused the jury to find the defendant not guilty when charged with passing counterfeit money, after the associate counsel for the defendant had given up the defense, taken his hat and left the courtroom. In the two famous cases, charging Dr. Lawrence with the murdering of two different young women in this county several years ago, Mr. Loomis' genius and learning were found able to overcome the difficulties that puzzled other counsel for the defense so that the defendant was acquitted.

Mr. Loomis is equally as resourceful in the control of civil suits. The late Judge Matheny declared that Mr. Loomis had more influence over a jury than any other member of the bar of this county, still he never takes his client's case into the court if it can by any manner be fairly adjusted without recourse to trial.

Mr. Loomis has probably the largest collection of works on parliamentary law of any one person in this county and in a series of articles published in a periodical a few years ago he gave for the first time definite and accurate definitions of constitution, by-laws, rules and other words and phrased that had not been before defined in any work on that law. Mr. Loomis has traveled quite extensively in this country and abroad, visiting England, Belgium, Luxemberg, Germany, Switzerland and France. His store of knowledge enables him to do much as a critic with word and pen concerning the works of the artist, teacher, law writer and inventor. He was glad to note that his criticism of the United States officials caused them to abandon the use of the twenty-three caliber rifle in the navy. Mr. Loomis steps higher and into the great problems of astronomy and has written instructively on the subject. 

He influenced his brother to give the telescope to Blackburn College in preference to others and has built the Loomis observatory at Springfield and placed therein the foregoing seven and a half inch telescope and hopes that the public will learn much from its use. He has never married, but resides with his nieces, Misses Mabel and Myra Loomis, in the city of Springfield. He is so quiet and unpretentious and is engaged so much with his labors in higher and useful fields that he is not as well and favorably known as he deserves, yet he has many friends who entertain for him the warmest regard because of his personal worth and his splendid mental land professional accomplishments.”

I found it curious that the biography had no mention of him being a Freemason, or belonging to the lodge in Springfield. This brought me to MORI, in which I was able to find his Masonic resume. Webner was initiated as an Entered Apprentice on December 9, 1872 into Springfield Lodge #4. He was passed to the degree of Fellowcraft on January 13, 1873. He was raised to the sublime degree of Master Mason on February 10, 1873. He affiliated with Chesterfield Lodge #445 on September 5, 1887. He died as aforementioned on May 3, 1921 in Springfield, IL and the cause of death is listed as Pneumonia.

One of the things that most impresses me about our fraternity is that men think proudly enough of their membership in it to put the square and compass on their gravestones for generations forward to see. For many men, this is the only lasting memorial to them. In Webner’s case, I want to find out more about his life as a Mason. I plan on reaching out to Springfield Lodge #4 to see if they have any records regarding Webner. I think it’s important to know if he served as an officer, if he was involved in any concordant bodies, or if he was just an upright Mason as his biography describes. If I receive any updates, I’ll be sure to pass them along.

~DAL

WB Darin A. Lahners is the Worshipful Master of St. Joseph Lodge No.970 in St. Joseph and a plural member of Ogden Lodge No. 754 (IL), and Homer Lodge No. 199 (IL). He’s a member of the Scottish Rite Valley of Danville, a charter member of the new Illinois Royal Arch Chapter, Admiration Chapter No. 282, and is the current Secretary of the Illini High Twelve Club No. 768 in Champaign – Urbana (IL). He is also a member of the Eastern Illinois Council No. 356 Allied Masonic Degrees. You can reach him by email at darin.lahners@gmail.com.