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Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

The Crucial Role of Family

by Midnight Freemason Contributor
Bro. Erik Geehern




Last night was our Installation of Officers.  After conducting the essential business of the evening, we adjourned downstairs to a reception graciously hosted and organized by the wives of our three primary officers. I felt immense gratitude towards my extraordinary wife of nearly twenty years, whose tireless efforts made this event truly exceptional. I was equally appreciative of the hard work and involvement of the other two spouses. While my wife has always been a pillar of support in everything I pursue, last night held a unique significance. It symbolized the culmination of my journey to the East, and having her by my side last night filled my heart with an overwhelming sense of joy that words cannot adequately capture.

Every Mason understands that the foundation of our Fraternity rests upon the principles of Brotherly Love, Relief, and Truth. This transformative journey embraces personal growth, spiritual development, and a deep commitment to serving humanity. However, we must recognize the indispensable role played by our family, spouses, significant others, friends, and loved ones. It is difficult to fully convey the significance of having such a support system beyond the walls of the Lodge, and the immensely positive impact it has on our Masonic experience defies adequate expression.

Family members' unwavering support and encouragement form the bedrock of a Mason's journey. When our loved ones comprehend, support, and wholeheartedly embrace our pursuit of Freemasonry, it transcends being a mere extracurricular activity and becomes an integral aspect of our existence. Their support and participation can give us a profound sense of belonging and provides a shared platform to exchange our experiences, navigate challenges, and celebrate triumphs. The support of our families fosters an environment of trust and understanding, allowing us to fully immerse ourselves in the teachings and principles of Freemasonry. Moreover, these invaluable lessons extend beyond the Lodge, positively influencing and enriching our lives on the domestic front.

The importance of family support extends beyond mere participation in Masonic events. Families often play a vital role in the logistical aspects of our Masonic endeavors. From preparing meals for Lodge dinners to assisting with fundraising activities, their involvement brings efficiency, warmth, and a sense of camaraderie. These acts of love and dedication enhance the overall Masonic experience for all, fostering a spirit of unity and cooperation among Brethren.

Embarking on this journey without the unwavering support, insightful perspective, and invaluable assistance of my wife would be simply unimaginable.  A Brother, friend, and mentor to me once told her after an event that she was “a better Mason than most”, a statement she jokingly retells almost any time I ask her to help with some new endeavor for the benefit of the Craft.  There are Brothers in our small Lodge where I have never met a member of their family, where their Masonry is for them and them alone.  Some may use the Fraternity as an escape from their home life, as an excuse to go out a few times a month with the guys.  In my personal opinion, these Brothers may be missing the essence and true purpose of Freemasonry.

As I reflect on the years since I joined Freemasonry, I am overwhelmed with gratitude for my family's unwavering support and active involvement. From the moment I expressed my desire to begin this journey, they have been my rock, my pillars of strength. Their constant encouragement, understanding, and participation have been instrumental in shaping my Masonic path. They have stood by me through every endeavor, offering their love and unwavering belief in the principles we hold dear. My family's devotion has fueled my commitment, inspired me to strive for excellence, and reminded me of the profound impact Freemasonry can have not only on my own life but also on our collective journey. Together, we have built a bond that transcends the Lodge, fostering a legacy of unity, compassion, and service. To my beloved family, words cannot adequately convey the depth of my appreciation. You are the foundation upon which my Masonic journey stands, and for that, I am eternally grateful.

And to my wife, whose presence at barbeques, food drives, toy drives, and even work details has meant so much to me.  Your warmth, love, and dedication have created a supportive environment that has allowed me to fully embrace the Masonic path.  I am in awe of your willingness to lend a helping hand, whether it be in organizing fundraising initiatives or preparing delicious meals for Lodge gatherings. Your participation has not only made these events more enjoyable but I pray has also inspired other Masonic families to actively engage in the pursuit of our shared principles.

Embrace the opportunity to involve your families in your Masonic journey, as much as they are willing and able. Encourage them to form connections and bonds with your Brothers and their families, fostering a sense of camaraderie and unity. Organize family events that celebrate the collective spirit of Freemasonry and provide a platform for genuine appreciation. Let your loved ones know just how deeply grateful you are for their unwavering support and the invaluable contributions they make to your Masonic endeavors. By recognizing and involving our families, we strengthen the fabric of our Masonic community, creating a lasting legacy of togetherness and shared experiences.

~EG

Bro. Erik M. Geehern is currently Master of Goshen Masonic Lodge #365 in Goshen, NY under the Grand Lodge of New York. He was raised to the sublime degree of Master Mason in October of 2019 and since then has served in various progressive chairs along the road to the east. He writes and curates a newsletter for his Lodge quarterly which disseminates education, history, and esoterics. He is also a member of the Grand College of Rites, the American Lodge of Research, and the Kansas Lodge of Research. He works in restaurant operations & consulting, and when not engaged in his usual vocation, or laboring in the Craft, he loves spending time with his wife and two children.

Staying Connected

by Midnight Freemason Contributor
Robert H. Johnson


As I write this one, I'm sitting at a small tabletop at O'Hare International Airport awaiting a flight to Raleigh Durham Airport. I'm on my way to present at a lodge there in the afternoon. I fly in, I land, fellowship, present, fellowship, go to bed, wake up and fly home and hopefully, eat lunch with my family on Sunday.

Busy right? No busier than many of you though. I travel less than 25% for work. But I rack up miles just the same. I do a lot of traveling for the Fraternity. I love it. My wife and four kids (all 12 or younger) not as much.

They understand the commitment I have and they love that it's driving great things, but of course, they wish I was  home with them instead. I am extremely dedicated to my family, but that also includes this Fraternity. About three years ago, I was a District Deputy. I had at least two meetings every week (for two years) as well as traveling to give talks and working a 40+ hour job, running the podcasts and managing this blog page. Of course I had several other pans in the fire too. But who's counting? You all get it by this point.

You might be saying, "Brother, it's FAMILY FIRST!" I know. They always are, but also we all have blind spots. Trust me.

My wife resented Freemasonry a little. You all might find that hard to believe since she is very active in the Fraternity in her own way--blogs, message boards etc. But sometimes, she'd just not know where I was, not see me for a day or two, and it became an issue.

I had planned on retiring as District Deputy the same year I was asked to step down, but to be honest, early retirement was a good thing. My family got me back. Of course there was still the travel for podcasts, conventions and symposiums, but I was home a lot more often. We reconnected.

I took some steps that I think really helped my family cope with the fact that I wasn't home sometimes. I created a "Masonic Calendar" in Google and I added it to all the family's phones. They now could see my flights, where I was going and when I would be home. This was HUGE. No longer was there the explosive disappointment when I couldn't go to Six Flags on Saturday night. My family knew weeks in advance and we planned around my travel.

Something else I did when my kids were a little younger, but I've since stopped, is I had created a YouTube channel called "Super Adventure Dad". I would take a few little videos and montage them with GoPro's Quik app, then upload them and send the link back to them. They would see what I was up to and felt like I was sharing the "fun" with them.

Now that the kids are a little older, I've suspended the channel and I don't upload there any more, so you'll probably find it, but the vids will all be private. Sometimes I felt that having to update a calendar and the like for my family was a hassle, or it wasn't value add since I didn't think anyone would pay attention to it. But the truth is, it was crucial. My wife and I, in a blink had an even better relationship. And my mom knew exactly when to expect the kids, since she was the saint watching them when I was out of town and my wife was at work.

In the end, I travel more than ever for presentations, but it's okay. I've streamlined my lodge experience (it only took 11 years). I have just one blue lodge I attend, unless it's a special event or another lodge personally reaches out because they need assistance. I am still a member or all the appendant bodies (sans Shrine), but I RARELY visit. One day, I may become active but I can save that for when life slows down. For now, it's somewhat of a lean philosophy.

So my message to you is to make sure you're connected. Make sure that if your traveling around for the Craft, whether locally or nationally and especially internationally, have that information available to the family, take pictures, stay connected. It's important. It made a real difference for me and my family.

Well, I have to send a few pictures and words to my kids and wife, so until next time, brothers and friends...

~RHJ

RWB, Robert Johnson is the Managing Editor of the Midnight Freemasons blog. He is a Freemason out of the 1st N.E. District of Illinois. He currently serves as the Secretary of Spes Novum Lodge No. 1183 UD. He is a Past Master of Waukegan Lodge 78 and a Past District Deputy Grand Master for the 1st N.E. District of Illinois. Brother Johnson currently produces and hosts weekly Podcasts (internet radio programs) Whence Came You? & Masonic Radio Theatrewhich focus on topics relating to Freemasonry. He is also a co-host of The Masonic Roundtable, a Masonic talk show. He is a husband and father of four, works full time in the executive medical industry. He is the co-author of "It's Business Time - Adapting a Corporate Path for Freemasonry" and is currently working on a book of Masonic essays and one on Occult Anatomy to be released soon.

A Lack of Flair

by Midnight Freemason Guest Contributor
Lady Cori Johnson

"Your'e just not wearing enough flair."
From the movie "Office Space"
Let me just say I think there should be more flair for a Mason's Lady. My husband has a whole lot of it. Any time he travels to another lodge or goes down to Grand Lodge sessions, he comes home with more and more pins. He's got regular Square and Compass ones, he has Forget-Me-Nots, he has lodge-specific pins that have been designed with great care and thought. Many of them are displayed in a handsome glass case, hung in his office so every visitor there can see. Some are always affixed to his work shirts, letting others know he is a Mason. Or maybe it's a reminder to himself when he looks in the mirror. Either way, it's effective.
 
 I have a small pin that is attached to a ribbon on my purse. It's a red enamel heart that has the square and compass in the middle and "MASON'S LADY" above it. I've been trying for a long time to get an enamel heart decal for my car that says just that, "Mason's Lady". It's such an honor to be a member of this wonderful and loving family where, no matter where you are, you're welcome. It would be the only "advertisement" I have on my vehicle, aside from the make of it. I removed any trace of car dealership that was on it.
 
 I'm aware that there is slipper decal but what I'm looking for is the heart. It shows that my heart belongs to someone that cherishes faith, hope and charity and above all, FAMILY. That badge of honor. I'm determined to find it. And when I do, I want to get one for all of my fellow Ladies and we'll display them with pride.


~Lady CLJ


Lady Cori Johnson is the wife of Brother Robert Johnson. They have been married for 13 years and have three incredible sons together. She has worked behind the scenes for all of Robert's ventures whether it be editing, brain storming and now, a bit of writing. From time to time she runs the Johnson Masonic Hotel, giving Masons a place to sleep (a nice hide-a-bed with a TV in their living room) while in town.