by Midnight Freemasons Founder
Todd E. Creason 33°
“It takes many good deeds
to build a good reputation,
and only one bad one to lose it.”
~Benjamin Franklin
One thing that was pounded into young men in my generation was
the importance of building a good reputation.
It’s hard work, because your reputation is the public reflection of your
character. It is what other people see
and come to believe about you.
It’s based on what you do. It’s
based on what you say. It’s based on how
you act. It’s based on how you treat
other people, and how you make other people feel. There are few things more important than
reputation when it comes to our success, or our failure as a person. It can
take years to build a reputation—it can take mere seconds to destroy it. It is something we should be very deliberate
about building, and very careful about protecting because it is the essence of
who we are. And it’s very difficult to
rebuild a reputation after you’ve allowed it to become tarnished.
I don’t deserve the reputation I have.
I hear that a lot. It’s
very rarely ever true. You see, you can
have a few people in your life that have an unfavorable opinion of you. Everyone does. But your reputation is what most people that
know you think of you. If you have a
reputation of being opinionated and outspoken, chances are you’re opinionated
and outspoken. If you have a reputation
for being undependable, you’re probably undependable. Sometimes people don’t think that’s fair—but
reputation is based on a very sound principle.
It’s based on your past behavior, and any employer or supervisor will
tell you that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
I’m going to to say what I want to say, and do what I want to
do, and I don’t really care what other people think.
I hear that a lot, too.
Sounds very tough and defiant, but actually it’s a childish attitude to
have. That selfish and narcissistic
attitude demonstrates a complete lack of care or concern for other people—most
specifically those that love you and care about you. Your reputation reflects on you, sure, but
you don’t think it also reflects on your spouse? On your kids?
Your family? Your community? Your church?
Your fraternity? Your
employer? You’ve never heard anybody
say, “she’s a real nice lady, but her husband is a real jerk.” You’ve never heard somebody say, “I don’t
know why he hangs around with that guy—he’d steal the shirt right off your
back.” Of course you have. Your actions affect everyone around you
whether that’s your intention or not.
Building a solid reputation is hard, because it requires an
amazing amount of self discipline. It
requires us to learn from our mistakes and not continue to repeat them—those
are the lessons that mature into wisdom eventually. It requires us to learn when it is important
for us to speak, and when it’s better to remain silent. It requires us to to listen to others, and
respect their point of view. It requires
us to admit when we are wrong, and to apologize when it’s appropriate. It requires us to be truthful and honest in
all of our dealings. It requires us to
do the things we say we’re going to do regardless of how difficult the task may
be.
Men of good reputation and solid character used to be more common
than they are today. We don’t teach the
value of it anymore. Our society is so
focused inward on ourselves, and our own selfish needs. We are a society of grown children, fighting
and arguing on social media just like children used to fight and argue on the
playground. We’ve never grown up and
become men, because we haven’t had the role models. And just like children, we don’t think about
what we’re saying, and we don’t think about what our words and actions are
saying about us.
We’d all be better off if we worked a lot harder at building
ourselves as decent human beings rather than focusing so intently on satisfying
our own needs. And those of us who
are able should focus on not only modeling those honorable character traits,
but teaching others to be men of good character. Men of good report. Men of unquestioned reputation.
~TEC
Originally posted on the From Labor To Refreshment blog January 9th, 2018
Todd E. Creason, 33° is the Founder of the Midnight Freemasons blog and is a regular contributor. He is the award winning author of several books and novels, including the Famous American Freemasons series. He is the author of the From Labor to Refreshment blog. He is the Worshipful Master of Homer Lodge No. 199 and a Past Master of Ogden Lodge No. 754. He is a Past Sovereign Master of the Eastern Illinois Council No. 356 Allied Masonic Degrees. He is a Fellow at the Missouri Lodge of Research. (FMLR) and a charter member of a new Illinois Royal Arch Chapter, Admiration Chapter No. 282. You can contact him at: webmaster@toddcreason.org
Originally posted on the From Labor To Refreshment blog January 9th, 2018
Todd E. Creason, 33° is the Founder of the Midnight Freemasons blog and is a regular contributor. He is the award winning author of several books and novels, including the Famous American Freemasons series. He is the author of the From Labor to Refreshment blog. He is the Worshipful Master of Homer Lodge No. 199 and a Past Master of Ogden Lodge No. 754. He is a Past Sovereign Master of the Eastern Illinois Council No. 356 Allied Masonic Degrees. He is a Fellow at the Missouri Lodge of Research. (FMLR) and a charter member of a new Illinois Royal Arch Chapter, Admiration Chapter No. 282. You can contact him at: webmaster@toddcreason.org